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Molestation

A fancy title was unnecessary for this unpleasant topic. As I begin to type there’s such a fear for me to continue but I am sure based on God’s secure words that He has not given me a spirit of fear but of peace and a sound mind.

So here we go. Did you know 1 in 10 children have been sexually abused before the age of 18? Click here

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I wanted to touch a few points regarding molestation as well as share my story in hopes to help someone receive necessary healing and freedom from the pain that’s associated with experiencing it.

1. It’s NOT your fault. If a person touched you or performed any sexual acts with you as a child (or against your will) it’s not your fault. Grown ups should protect children at all cost. Unfortunately we live in a very sinful, sexual world. Some people have a desire to seek sex from a child and force themselves to steal a child’s purity and it’s not ok and it’s not your fault. It’s that person’s wicked desire to engage in something God did not make right.

2. Secrecy turns to shame. The violation that one experiences regarding this topic causes some to keep it a secret (especially if they’ve been threatened or asked to). Sometimes horror stories of not being believed causes one to keep their mouth closed until the pain outweighs their shame. The violator May ask for the child to keep it a secret from fear of being exposed to the wickedness they are for sure isn’t right.

3. Confront it- This may be hard but is absolutely necessary for you or the person/child to move on. Accept the fact that it has happened and sadly the past can not be changed but you can absolutely walk in complete freedom the pain. Counceling may help you. Talking about it is one way of confronting what happened and processing it.

4. Forgive the violator. A lot of people think forgiving a person is giving them a pass to continue on misbehaving, or saying that they are right and that’s not the case. Being molested is not right and when you forgive that person that violated you, it will FREE you from the pain they afflicted upon you.  I saw a fb post the other day, ‘when we don’t forgive it’s like drinking poison expecting the other person to die.’

5. Enjoy life– The past can not be changed but your future can be. There’s so much in life for you to experience and I want everyone that has experienced molestation to know that there’s such a beautiful World for one to experience. The pain you encounter doesn’t have to be a weight you carry for a lifetime. You can enjoy life and live a healthy life although you’ve experienced this tragedy as a child. I am a living testimony.

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On to my testimony:

Around the age of four I was molested by an extended family member. Looking back on it; it seemed normal. I was a child and he said, ‘let’s be friends.’ And then he did what he did to me and said, ‘it’s our secret, don’t tell anyone.’ The last time it happened I guess my little child self was fed up and I told him. ‘I didn’t want to be friends anymore.’ And He never touched me again (actually I think a family member suspected something and eventually he was removed from the household). I remember going to school one day and the school had a puppet program and it was about molestation (kid friendly). At the end of the program the question was asked, ‘Has anyone touched you?!’ And I remember wanting to say something (in fact I used to have a lot of black outs from my memory around that time so I am not for sure if I did or not.) At the age of 11 I shared with one of my friends what happened and she shared that she too was molested. Sharing with my friend gave me the courage to share with another friend and she was molested to. When I got older I did alot of research and found some devastating statiscs on molestation. It happens so often and usually with someone in the family or close to it. The violated can easily become the violator and it turns in to vicious cycle.

Sharing with my family wasn’t done in a pleasant way at all. In fact it was messy, chaotic and disrespectful. I was 21 years old and the guilt of my own sins (having sex before marriage, doing drugs, not honoring my Dad) and the shame of molestation was such a heavy burden for me to carry. I literally told my family and later wanted to commit suicide (I’ll be doing a blog on suicide at a later date.) Later that week I gave my life to Jesus and entered such a loving relationship with Him. Jesus not only healed my heart but freed me from all the pain I encountered as a child!

 

How did I forgive the man that violated me? I just remember struggling with a particular sin and meditating on the scripture, ‘all fall short of the glory of God.’ And I thought about all the bad things I did and how out of control I was and felt. I mean I was a thief, liar, backstabber, drama starter, disrespectful and much more. Jesus died for and forgave me just as he died for the man that molested me. Soon my heart was softened. I don’t think anyone truly wants to hurt a child however I believe being controlled by a sinful nature can cause a person to do ungodly things.  This thought allowed me to whole heartedly forgive him and move on. That moment has also caused me to be more understanding and merciful regarding people’s choices to choose wickedness over righteousness. I take great comfort in knowing, ‘that all things work together for good for those who love God.’ Being molested didn’t destroy me but I do believe if one isn’t healed the pain associated with the violation will kill the person; Unforgivess, shame, and pain can cause physical sickness in the body. We can get the counseling we need to move forward and enjoy the life God has gifted to us.

 

Check out this blog on how to spot a molester :

https://www.modernmom.com/30e557ba-48c3-11e3-87f1-bc764e04a41e.html

I hope this helps you or helps you understand molestation a little more. I pray that the Lord heals your heart completely if you’ve been violated in any way shape or form. I pray that you truly walk in the freedom God has planned for your life. Please feel free to leave me  comment or a DM if you would like through social media.

 

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In the Spirit

God is jealous for YOU! By Sherry Thorpe

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Did you know God is jealous for you? The Bible says that “You must worship no other gods, for the LORD, whose very name is Jealous, is a God who is jealous about his relationship with you.” Exodus 34:14

You must not worship no other gods! You must not make any idols!

You shall not make for yourself an image in the form of anything in heaven above or on the earth beneath or in the waters below.” Exodus 20:14

What does that mean when it says the Lord is jealous for us? It means that God wants you. Not a partial part of you but you wholly (fully). He wants and deserves FIRST place in your life. This means God becomes before your father, mother, siblings, grand parents, job, career, studies, dreams, money, cars, television, social media, school etc… These things if we are not careful can become our idols. So we must remain in the light where the Lord can expose our shortcomings and wash us clean of our unhealthy love/desire for idols. The Lord wants first place!

He is the only one who actually deserves first place because He thought about us all the way to the cross and even afterwards.

I have been bold enough to pray “Lord if it distracts me from you then take it from me or help me manage it better.” I’ve lost good paying jobs, good jobs with great benefits, nice people in my life and I look back and it’s because I slowly but surely began to place them and their needs, request, time before my God. I’m prone to wander off God’s path the Bible says in Isaiah 53:6 and He is merciful towards us but we must not test Him.

The Lord wants your attention so please don’t be shocked if things are taken away and don’t complain because our God who giveth also taketh (Job 1:21). If it’s taken it’s for our good and we are given the opportunity to turn our hearts to God and who knows the Lord might set you up like Job in the Bible – he lost everything and got so much more from the Lord in return. Job’s portion increased lol.

God wants and deserves and waits for you to give Him your attention. You can simply call His name to place your attention on Him. When you give Him your attention it’s actually the best position to be in. When your attention is on Him (when you give Him first place) you are in a secret place, you are in peace, you are comforted, you are washed clean, you are BLESSED!

God is not selfish, He WANTS to bless you. The Lord says, “If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!” Matt 7:11 The lord wants to give you gifts!

God wants ALL of you and He is not into settling. Thank the Lord for His mercy for the things we put before rather it be unconsciencely or purposely. We should thank the Lord for His mercy and also be soberly aware not to put things before Him. The Lord’s mercy endures forever and each morning His mercy is new. Lamentations 3:22-23

This is our God and He wants you. He wants to spend time with you. He wants you to know Him in a personal way. He wants you to love Him. He wants first place. He wants to bless you. He wants to protect you. He wants to comfort you. He wants to be YOUR GOD!

If you have never made the decision to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior and want to, feel free to ask your local pastor or believer. Or you can PM me on social media.

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In the Spirit

The Lord is setting you up to take the shot! The #NBAFinals tho! By Sherry Thorpe

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Whoa Kevin! First let’s just have a moment of silence for this game being it was so exciting and stressful to the Nations lol.

Towards the end of the game Kevin comes down the court with one determined motive, get the ball in the net. Successfully shooting a 3 his head is still in the game and back to defense he went! No time for celebration. Bringing the GS back to the lead he knew the game wasn’t over because the TIME WASNT OUT!

The clock is still running!

I enjoy watching basketball because it excites me to watch good players give it all that they have to come out with a W!

I wanted to take the time to remind you that you are still in the game of “Life”. And the Lord is either trying to get your attention so He can train you or He is training you to win. Kevin says while being interviewed after the game, “I been working on that shot my whole life”. The opportunity was placed in front of him and he knew exactly what to do to get the ball to successfully sink in to the hole! #AllNet #Whoosh Uno, dos, très points please! Good job Kevin👍🏾👍🏾

Right now you are in training (or can be in training) to be stragically placed to put the team back on the winning side. Where ever you are, the Coach Lord is setting you up to WIN if you are IN Him! The bible says “The LORD himself goes before you and will be with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged.” – Deuteronomy 31:8

Seeking first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness.. (Matt 5:33while you are doing your earthly work the Lord is preparing you to step out on faith and take that 3 point shot you’ve been practicing for YOUR WHOLE LIFE. The opportunities are endless in God’s Kingdom and He is (or wants to) prepare you to WIN in Him. Thank you Coach Lord for preparing us!

If you do not know the Lord personally and would like to get to know Him, feel free to ask your local Christian Pastor or believer. You can also PM on social media:

 

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Travel

The Price Is Right

PIR with Nemo                     Like REALLY REALLY?

Did I really have the opportunity to travel to Los Angeles, California and attend The Price Is Right TV show Recording? Uh, Yes I did.

Did my friend win some things on The Price is Right? Uh, Yes she did.

Seriously though it is still so surreal that my friend and I visited LA and was on the show called “The Price is Right“.

So here’s the story: Last minute my friend called me on a Sunday night (like literally the night before) and asked me if I wanted to go to LA with her because she has tickets to The Price is Right. Well I just happened to have Monday off so I was like, “Sure let’s go”.  We traveled to LA non rev style.

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